Abuse Hurts

We Want to Help Bring You Healing.

If you were sexually abused in the church, your pain is real, and it is deep.

When a pastor or another Christian leader abuses someone, the injury done is even greater than elsewhere because of the spiritual vulnerability of the believer before the pastor, the great respect held for the pastor up to that point, because the Christian leader is viewed as a liaison between the victim and God, and because they hold a position of spiritual authority.

For all those reasons, if you have been abused by someone in the church, you can easily begin to believe that the entire church is false, fake, hypocritical, unloving, abusive, and a hundred other things. Trust has been broken.

Yet, you need to know 2 things:

First, Jesus hates what happened to you.

He said, "If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them if a large millstone were hung around their neck and they were thrown into the sea." (Mark 9:42)

So, He does not approve at all of what was done to you and He intends to punish it.

Second, while He hates it, Jesus is nevertheless not surprised by these terrible things done among His people.

He also said, "Watch out for false prophets [false Christian leaders]. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves." (Matthew 7:15)

In other words, Jesus predicted that there would be false teachers in His church that would abuse and hurt His sheep (you and I).

Of course, it is a natural question to ask why God would allow this? Why would He let a pastor do this to you or others?

The Bible says that the devil is not only the enemy of God, but he is the enemy of you and I. The devil knows that he cannot hurt God directly, so he is driven to do the only thing he can, which is hurt us. The only way he can hurt God is to hurt the people God loves.

The only thing the devil wants is to destroy the good things of God and the people God loves. He is a destroyer and a hater, and he is the fuel and power behind destructive and abusive leaders posing as Christians.

Therefore, if the enemy inspired someone in the church to abuse you, it is because he knows God loves you and he is seeking to hurt God by hurting you.

The enemy wants to destroy you by injuring you deeply and then driving you away from Christ and His Body so you will have trouble healing, and your gifts will be disconnected from Christ's Body at large.

That is why you were abused.

The way to defeat the enemy is to recognize that it was him hurting you and not Christ's Body as a whole. Turn to God and ask Him to heal you. Reach out to mature men or women (of your same sex) at a spiritually healthy church for help and healing.

We want you to be whole. We want you to be healed and strong. We want you to be part of us, the Church, again.

Contact Us to talk more.